Ask the question we forgot.
The library has 268 questions. We add to it carefully, and most of the best ones come from people who’ve already used the quiz. If you’ve sat across from someone and thought I wish there was a question for this — write it here.
We add about one in forty submissions to the library. Most are close, not quite.
We read in batches every Friday. If yours lands, you'll hear within three weeks.
Accepted questions get edited — for clarity, voice, and the way the room reads.
If you'd like, we credit by first initial. If not, the question goes in unsigned.
Five kinds of question we’ll always send back.
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Questions that diagnose.
We don't publish questions designed to label a partner — “are you avoidant?”, “do you have ADHD?”. Diagnosis is a clinician's job.
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Questions that punish.
We don't publish questions whose purpose is to corner. If both possible answers feel like a trap, the question is the trap.
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Questions that test love.
We don't publish riddles disguised as intimacy. “Would you still love me if…” is a quiz prompt, not a relationship question.
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Questions about a third party.
We don't publish questions about specific named people. The library is for the two of you, not for relitigating an ex or a parent.
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Questions with one obvious answer.
If everyone answers the same way, we haven't asked anything. We're looking for prompts that two thoughtful people might genuinely split on.