How Both Want Works
Four steps from sign-up to your first shared discovery. No awkward conversations required — just honest answers and a smart system that only shows you what you both want to see.
Sign Up Safely
Create a pseudonymous account — no real name required. Verify your age and connect with your partner via a private invite code. Your identities stay protected from the start.
- Pseudonymous accounts only
- Age verification at signup
- Private partner invite code
- No social media login required
Take the Quiz Independently
Answer questions across 3 progressive tiers — Basics, Desires, and Boundaries. Your answers are completely private. Your partner takes their quiz separately, on their own time.
- Tier 1: Comfort Zone (basics & romance)
- Tier 2: Desires (deeper exploration)
- Tier 3: Boundaries (kinks & dynamics)
- Your answers are encrypted immediately
Discover Mutual Matches
Our algorithm reveals ONLY what you both said yes or maybe to. No awkward reveals, no pressure, no rejected one-sided disclosures. Only the good stuff.
- Both yes = confirmed match
- Both maybe = worth exploring
- Yes + maybe = suggested conversation
- No answers are never revealed
Build Your Bucket List
Turn your mutual matches into a shared adventure list. Plan experiences, mark them complete, and reflect together. Your shared journey, organized.
- Add matched desires to your list
- Set dates and reminders
- Mark items complete together
- Reflect and rate experiences
Privacy at every step
Your answers are encrypted before leaving your device. Individual responses are never accessible to us or your partner — only matches appear.
More Than a Quiz
But Wait, There's More
The quiz is just the beginning. BothWant is a full intimacy platform built for the long haul.
Community
Connect with other couples navigating the same journey. Anonymous discussion boards, tips, and shared experiences.
Games
Icebreaker games and couple challenges that make exploration playful and low-pressure.
Journal
A private shared journal for couples to document experiences, thoughts, and reflections between sessions.
Achievements
Earn badges as you explore. Gamified milestones that celebrate your journey together.
AI Insights
Personalized compatibility analysis powered by AI — surfacing patterns in your matches and suggesting conversation starters.
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