Helping couples discover what they both want
BothWant is a private, anonymous quiz platform that lets couples explore their shared desires without fear of judgment or awkwardness. You each answer independently. Only the desires you have in common are revealed.
Our Mission
Intimacy thrives on honesty, but honesty requires safety. Too many couples leave desires unspoken because the risk of rejection feels too high. We built BothWant to eliminate that risk entirely. When both partners want the same thing, they find out. When they don't, nobody knows. It is the simplest idea in the world — and it changes everything.
How It Works
Simple, secure, and designed with your relationship in mind.
Completely Private
Your individual responses are encrypted and never shared. Not with your partner, not with us, not with anyone.
Mutual Matches Only
Only desires you both independently select are revealed. No awkward one-sided disclosures. Ever.
18+ Verified
Age verification is required at signup. We take the safety and consent of our users seriously.
Zero Judgment
Our quizzes are designed by relationship experts to normalize healthy curiosity between consenting adults.
Curated Quizzes
Thoughtfully crafted question sets that range from playful to adventurous, always respectful and inclusive.
Built for Couples
Every feature is designed for two people in a relationship. This is not a dating app — it is a deepening app.
What We Believe
Privacy is non-negotiable
We built our entire architecture around the principle that your intimate data belongs to you. We encrypt quiz responses at rest, process matches server-side without human access, and delete everything permanently when you ask.
Consent is foundational
Both partners must independently opt in. Nothing is revealed unless both people say yes. This mirrors the real-world consent we believe should underpin every intimate relationship.
No shame, no pressure
Curiosity is healthy. Our platform exists to make the conversation easier, not to push anyone beyond their comfort zone. If only one partner selects a desire, silence is the answer — and silence carries no stigma.
Why We Built This
Most couples leave their deepest desires unspoken — not because they don't have them, but because saying them out loud feels too vulnerable. The fear of rejection silences more intimacy than anything else.
We built BothWant around one simple principle: you should only find out about a shared desire when both of you already want it. No one-sided exposure. No awkward moments. Just the discoveries that bring you closer.
Safe, consensual exploration starts with the right tools. We built those tools — and we're just getting started.
Our Values
Privacy
Your intimate data is yours. We encrypt everything, sell nothing, and make it trivially easy to delete your account and all associated data.
Consent
Every match requires independent agreement from both partners. Consent is baked into the architecture — not bolted on as an afterthought.
Inclusivity
Built for all relationship types, orientations, and partnership structures. Love looks different for everyone — our platform reflects that.
Fun
Intimacy should be joyful. We balance depth with playfulness — helping couples explore seriously without taking themselves too seriously.
The Team
A small, mission-driven team of engineers, designers, and relationship researchers building the tools we wish had existed in our own relationships.
Alex Kim
Founder & CEO
Product leader with 10 years building consumer apps. Passionate about human connection.
Sam Rivera
Lead Developer
Full-stack engineer specializing in privacy-first architectures and real-time systems.
Jamie Lee
Head of Design
UX designer with a background in psychology, focused on safe and inclusive experiences.
Morgan Patel
Relationship Research Lead
Certified relationship coach and researcher with expertise in consensual intimacy.
Ready to discover what you both want?
Create a free account, invite your partner, and take your first quiz together. It takes less than five minutes.