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Guide 06 · Conflict

How to know when you're avoiding the question, and what to do about it

By BothWant EditorialUpdated 02 Mar 20268 min read
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The signs of the slow drift — when 'fine' has been the answer too many times in a row.

The signs of the slow drift — when 'fine' has been the answer too many times in a row. A self-audit that takes five minutes alone before the harder conversation.

We’re writing this guide carefully. It’ll publish here in the same volume as the lead guide. In the meantime, the five-question sample is the closest thing we have to the conversation it’s pointing at.

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