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Guides for couples who want to know more about each other.

Evergreen reading on communication, intimacy, conflict, and care.

Guide 01Communication

Asking for what you want without making it a referendum on the relationship

How to make a specific request — about touch, about time, about effort — without the asking itself becoming the conversation. With scripts for the ten minutes after.

Updated 12 Apr 2026
Guide 03Communication

When to bring up money, when to bring up sex, when to bring up children

On timing, sequence, and the well-meaning catastrophe of holding all three conversations on the same Sunday. A rough calendar that has worked for a number of long-married couples.

Updated 28 Mar 2026
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Reading is one half. The asking is the other.

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